 I get so much out of opening myself up to the world, really being a part of this big round globe of amazing people. On this journey, I’m really inspired by Tatum. She is such a cool, honest, real, fun person who I got to know a little before she took off on a road trip around the country teaching yoga and writing and blogging about it.
I want to be more like her when I grow up. Because my heart can’t seem to get enough sharing. I'm just imagining all the people she's meeting and touching. Humans—homo sapiens—my peeps--we are pack animals. We survive and thrive in community. Our feelings of aloneness are a desire for connection, for being heard and seen at a deep level. To be embraced by our tribe. They say that friends help you move, real friends help you move bodies. Do you long for more real friends? The ones you can tell your secrets to, the ones that listen and support you when you’re frustrated or crying, and are always there to celebrate your successes? The ones that know how to make fun of you but it still feels like love. Or maybe you’re seeking a new love relationship. How awesome to find that special someone to share your life with! The person who gets you, is there for you, and sees your greatness without you having to constantly prove it. Even if they complain about the toilet seat thing. How is it that we live on a planet with billions of people, and yet we can still feel like we’re all by ourselves? If you’ve ever felt alone, the irony is that you’re not alone with that feeling. Our modern world puts us in closer proximity but with less connection. We can communicate with thousands, without relevance. We can share a world of information without ever sharing what lies in our hearts. We can smell others on the subway, but there's no back story to give it meaning. Ever walk into a coffee shop and everyone is texting and no one is talking to each other? My brother owns a café, August First, in Burlington, Vermont where he has banned laptops and tablets and cell phones. He thinks people are better served by talking to one another. What a concept! Some of us have enough trouble expressing feelings face-to-face. Instant feedback in the form of a smile, encouraging words, a touch of the hand, can make it much easier. But online, I don’t know if you’re nodding, or getting ready to hit the delete key. I’m taking a chance putting it out there into the void Being willing to be vulnerable in this way, technology pushes me to grow emotionally. As I flex my digital feelings, I learn to share for the sake of sharing, and not for what I might receive in return. It's not about validation. It's about the need to express, and the gratification of doing for the sake of doing. It's about authenticity. However, I still enjoy your responses. Comment, write me, type your heart out loud. Come join the party! And when you want to cultivate your heart, when you want to create relationships with velocity and power, consider hiring a coach. It gets boring on the sidelines. Love, Dr. Tim Comments are closed.
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